Stop Giving Your Feelings A Life Sentence
“If you don’t heal what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you.”
Think of something earlier this year or last year that truly effected you. Something that hurt deeply or felt like a wound that would never heal.
Now think of where you are now from that emotional state. Each and every day put a mile of highway between you and that event. Whatever it was that seemed impossible to get through or get over, wasn’t. You are in a different place now, and honestly a better one because of it.
We let our emotions take root in our mind and they are given too much substance to realize how circumstantial they actually are. Anger, fear, sadness, even happiness – are all temporary. Anytime someone hurts you, start realizing that it’s not hard to get over them, it’s hard to get over the feeling of them.
When you really put it into perspective, when someone does something to actually hurt you, as a human, our fight or flight kicks in and we analyze the risk of allowing them anymore time in our life. However, the trick of the negative emotions is that they elevate the feelings of the good ones before they hurt you leaving more room for error in deciding this.
Just like anything of a light color surrounded by darkness becomes that much brighter, the same happens with heartbreak. The good times seem even better than they actually were because we are in a lower place looking back at them. We want to subside the negative feelings so we reminisce on the good ones, only increasing the feeling of hurt we are experiencing. We’re covered in shade by them looking back at things unobscured by anything other than happiness making them appear better, and our hurt only magnified.
We are giving the temporary and harmful emotions a life sentence in our mind when in reality, we don’t have to. We can embrace them in real time but acknowledge them for what they are, which is momentary. The pain is part of the transition from one moment of your life to the next. It makes you stronger and prepared for the next attachment in life that we will make.
Every love after your first will only increase in intensity, therefore your emotions will take deeper roots. We need to start compartmentalizing them. Without the pain of the former, we would crack and break under the pressure of the latter. Put your feelings on trial, sentence them to the appropriate serving time, and make sure only the true deserving ones are destined to take the permanent residence in your life.
The good part about our feelings are that they are temporary. They are not forever. Your next low will always be followed by a high – we just have to allow ourselves to get there.
