Why It Didn’t Work And You Should Be Thankful

I’m torn between believing that everything happens for a reason and taking life by the horns and making my own destiny. Usually, I will switch back and forth depending on which fits my current situation.

Either way, both will play such a huge role in the future you are working towards. I’m honestly a firm believer in both.

So how do we know when it’s time to quit someone, and when it’s time to try harder for the thing that we want? Usually we don’t, so we get caught up in an indecisive spiral that ends in a mess of emotions and mistakes.

I want you to think about something that happened this time last year that made a huge impact on your life. In the moment, whatever it was, seemed to be impossible to get through or get over. Luckily, adulthood will teach you that there are lots of other problems coming your way.

Whatever seemed soul crushing and devastating though, isn’t anymore. It does get better. And this is what I look to when I just don’t know if I should give someone up, or give them everything I have to make it work.

I hate to be cliche, but everything that is supposed to happen, will. And depending on how long you let it go on, the outcome will always be the same. The best point in your relationship or friendship, is absolutely as good as it gets. You need to decide if that’s the high you want to chase for the rest of your life, because whatever you keep running towards, that’s the best it will ever be.

If it didn’t work out, either because they left, or you, realize that it’s for the best. A few years ago, I was so deeply in love with a guy. When I found out he was cheating on me, my world collapsed. I have been in some low places but this pit had no bottom. It took me months and months to get over it, and I don’t think that even on my best day after that, I had fully recovered.

But when I look back now, I realize a very scary thought. If he wouldn’t of cheated on me, I would of ended up with him. That ‘bubble’ I was in, doesn’t even begin to compare to the relationship I have with my husband now. That’s as good as my life would of gotten and thank GOD it didn’t stop there. I would of missed out on so much if he hadn’t cheated and made my choice for me.

It’s hard losing someone who is your everything. You made them your foundation and they failed you. When you felt like you needed it the most, there was no firm place to land on. But know, that even at your best, it still won’t work out with the wrong person. You will learn so much at the lowest point of your life, but you won’t realize it until you are at your next high point.

And I can assure you, there is a ‘next’ high point. I promise it happened for a reason. It’s not clear now because what’s coming next isn’t ready yet. But when it is, you will realize that the life you thought you wanted, doesn’t compare to the one you’re headed for.