Why You Will Never Be Good Enough, And It’s Okay

Think of who you love most in the world. It could be your spouse, child, parent, anyone. 

Is there anything you would change about this person? It could be a huge characteristic or quality, such as their religious or political leanings, or something small or superficial like the way they chew their food. And don’t lie… there is something we would change about everyone, even ourselves.

So you have this person in mind, the one you love most in the world, and even though they are the one we would sacrafice everything for, they still aren’t ‘not good’ enough in one way or another. And why? Because the ‘good enough’ bar we set is almost, if not completely, equivalent to perfection.

First off, perfection is not real. Especially because every person’s definition of the word is different. So why are we giving ourselves this unattainable expectation? Why are we defining our value on reaching some idealistic, radical, inconsistent concept?

Secondly, why are we so focused on the opinions of others? Family, friends, even strangers. We all adjust ourselves in some way to appeal to our own masses. Your definition of perfection will never match theirs. How can you live up to that? Why are we setting ourselves up to be let down in everyone’s eyes?

We are trying to make ourselves perfect in an imprefect world. Where even the most important people to us aren’t reaching that bar. When the person that you love most, and even the person that loves you most, are not living up to this expectation. 

That’s where our value needs to be focused on instead, is in the love that people give us despite all our flaws and our inability to live up to ‘ideas’.

We let ourselves down all the time, and if we can’t even make ourselves happy 100% of the time, you sure as hell aren’t going to make anyone else happy 100% of the time. 

So take what you get, accept this fact, and be okay with that. Because when you do, you’ll find that ‘not being good enough’ is human nature. And every person; rich, poor, famous, married, single – any and every one are all failing to live up to unrealistic expectations we set for ourselves, and the world sets for us. 

You will never be ‘good enough’ & it’s okay.